tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4626048376676181364.post717825584382661183..comments2023-04-27T04:02:10.180-06:00Comments on sophisticated simplicity: some thoughts on datingCourtneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07004356137931243358noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4626048376676181364.post-33782138601424728532011-12-19T21:27:12.453-07:002011-12-19T21:27:12.453-07:00well, i for one HATE spending one-on-one time with...well, i for one HATE spending one-on-one time with boys. i figure hanging out is way safer because then i don't have to do things like 1) have serious conversations, 2) plan things, or 3) be the one to laugh when the other person makes a joke because hopefully someone else in the room will laugh so i don't have to, 4) remember things he says, and 5) worry about what all my friends are doing--we can all just hang out together! <br /><br />okay let's be real though: sometimes i feel really self-conscious because i'm not the centre of attention when i'm just hanging out with a group of people. i feel like, "how is he ever going to notice me or think i'm cool when all i am is one more girl--not the funniest, not the prettiest, not the anything-est--in this group?!" and i feel bad that i am not the queen of being a cool hang-outer. and then i remember: you're not built to hang out. you're built to make a commitment to one person who you build a relationship with for all your lives and grow closer and closer together. so i guess what i'm saying is that maybe it's better to develop one-on-one skills *despite social models now that say hanging out skills are prime*. i think they'll serve me and my future lover so so much better. and we can build a quiet, funny, adventurous, secret little life together.Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17575891383320251383noreply@blogger.com