Monday, December 19, 2011

some thoughts on dating

the ladies in our apartment talk about dating a lot. it's to be expected. we're young, we're surrounded by eligible men, and we are very eligible and very great ourselves. if i do say so on all of our behalf.

this is something that has been floating around lately. it rings very true. a particularly good quote:

A lot of men today don’t seem to believe it, but getting hitched to the right woman is a very desirable thing.
So while there is nothing wrong with hanging out, it’s not a replacement for dating. Dating is the pathway to finding your true love and eventually settling down and getting married. Marriage is a one on one relationship, so you need to start getting to know women on a one on one basis. You might be hanging out with her and your friends right now, but if you don’t take her on date, she’ll forever be just your friend. So, start dating and stop hanging out. It really is not that hard to get a date with a woman. Here are some guidelines to remember as you take hanging out up a level to dating.
 The website this article comes from, the art of manliness, is pretty cool. for guys and girls.

and a lot of the issues the authors bring up in in their article reminded me and my friends of this talk given by president monson in april conference. so, i guess, once again, i am reminded of how in tune the leaders of the church are to the trends of the world. they aren't just a bunch of old guys sitting up in a tall building--they know what's up.

any thoughts about these two articles or dating in general?

1 comment:

  1. well, i for one HATE spending one-on-one time with boys. i figure hanging out is way safer because then i don't have to do things like 1) have serious conversations, 2) plan things, or 3) be the one to laugh when the other person makes a joke because hopefully someone else in the room will laugh so i don't have to, 4) remember things he says, and 5) worry about what all my friends are doing--we can all just hang out together!

    okay let's be real though: sometimes i feel really self-conscious because i'm not the centre of attention when i'm just hanging out with a group of people. i feel like, "how is he ever going to notice me or think i'm cool when all i am is one more girl--not the funniest, not the prettiest, not the anything-est--in this group?!" and i feel bad that i am not the queen of being a cool hang-outer. and then i remember: you're not built to hang out. you're built to make a commitment to one person who you build a relationship with for all your lives and grow closer and closer together. so i guess what i'm saying is that maybe it's better to develop one-on-one skills *despite social models now that say hanging out skills are prime*. i think they'll serve me and my future lover so so much better. and we can build a quiet, funny, adventurous, secret little life together.